Taking Hold of Your Mind

People experiencing trauma related problems often say that they have difficulty controlling their thinking.  They may describe being bothered by thoughts that keep intruding on their thinking, or impulses to do things that might be harmful.  Obsessional thinking or going over the same thought repeatedly is another disturbance that can be a big problem.  These, as well as other disturbances in the process of their thinking are often described by our clients. 

While there are a variety of ways to address problems with the thinking process, using mindfulness skills is one that most people can learn and practice.   In her skills training manual, Psychologist Marsha Linehan devotes a major section to mindfulness skills which she titles “taking hold of your mind.”  I find this a fitting title because many people describe the experience of thinking problems as feeling like their mind is out of control. 

One of the first skills that Dr. Linehan covers is called “observe, just notice” which falls into the category of easy to say, difficult to do.  The skill involves observing your thoughts without getting caught up in what they are.  Dr. Linehan says to “…watch your thoughts coming and going, notice each feeling, rising and falling like waves in the ocean.”  I have found another useful metaphor to be that of standing beside a river watching your thoughts and feelings come floating down from upstream, drifting across in front of you and continuing to float downstream out of your awareness.  These and other observe techniques can be very helpful in learning to be in greater control of your thinking.  They are not very easy to use at first and coaching and a lot of practice is usually needed.  I think the time and effort taken to learn and use them is worth it.   I’ll describe more mindfulness skills in future posts.

Bill Bonacker